HOW TO HANDLE CONFLICT IN WEDDING PLANNING
Conflict, Boundaries, and Keeping the Peace
How to handle conflict and still have fun planning your wedding!
Wedding planning is a team effort. But sometimes the people closest to you can make planning your wedding harder than it should be. Not everyone will agree with your choices and it's common for your friends and family to have an opinion on your wedding details such as your venue, dress, colors, flowers, and so much more.
Too many opinions and disagreements can cause a lot of unwanted and unnecessary stress on the couple getting married. It can also cause frustration, resentment, and conflict between you and your closest relatives or those in your friend circle.
While planning your wedding, it is vital for your mental and emotional well-being to recognize that setting some healthy boundaries may be necessary in order to stay happy, focused, and plan the wedding you want to have.
It may be time to rethink how involved you want people to be in the planning process and start setting some boundaries when it feels like too many opinions are taking away the joy of planning this special day in your life.
Here are a few tips to help you when it comes to dealing conflict in wedding planning.
Tip #1
Decide what details you want to share and with whom. Remember, you don't have to share any details about your wedding unless you want to. You can decide what details you give out and who you share details with.
If there is a person in your life that helps you make decisions and you feel comfortable talking to them, feel free to use them as a sounding board. This can be a positive thing and help you see a different perspective.
However if you share details with someone and they try to convince you otherwise or respond in a negative way, you'll need to decide if this person is someone you want to include in future conversations.
Tip #2
Talk it out. Whenever there is conflict or tension with your partner or a loved one it is best to talk about the issues you are having openly to avoid feelings of anger or resentment to build up. Let that person know if their behavior is bothering you. Speak with honesty about your feelings and what you would like to see change.
Having an open conversation also allows for both parties to speak their minds and reduces the risk of any misunderstandings happening. The goal is always to respect each other's opinions and come to a resolution, even if that means you have a difference of opinion. You don't have to agree with each other, just make your voices heard.
Tip #3
Set healthy boundaries. It is important to set boundaries and expectations early on. If someone is making you uncomfortable, sad, or frustrated because their comments are always negative or they make you doubt yourself or question you decisions, feel free to exclude them from future conversations.
You don't need to explain yourself. Wedding planning can be stressful enough without having to deal with any additional negativity around your big day. If they ask for details or want to get the latest update on your plans, give them the bare minimum. The less you share the less chance they have to say something negative.
Tip #4
Your guests don't need to know everything. Before the wedding day a lot of excitment and anticipation is building and naturally your guests are going to be curious about what your wedding will look like, what you will wear and so on. If you tell them all the details before the big day there won't be any surprises.
Leave something to the imagination. The less you tell your guests the more excited they will be when they walk into your wedding venue in awe seeing all your beautiful details.
Tip #5
Times (and weddings) have changed. Your wedding is going to reflect who you are today and your own personal style. Some of your family members may want you to keep some of the old traditions and if you decide not to they may take offense and be upset. They may have their own expectations of what your wedding should look like and have strong opinions based on cultural or family traditions.
In the end you have to decide what you want to do. You can't make everyone happy and you will be stressed out and exhausted if you try to. You may need to have some difficult conversations with close family members and explain your decisions for choosing your own path. In the end they will respect your choices and share in your joyful day even if it wasn't what they envisioned.
The Bottom Line
Planning your wedding should be fun and exciting! Surround yourself with people who support your decisions and are excited with you.
It's important to know that your style and vision for your wedding will be different than someone else's. Don't let anyone try to change your mind about things that are important to you. This is your day!
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